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    Becoming a High Value Woman

    I did not write this post, nor do I own the intellectual property. Becoming a high value woman starts from having the right mindset. In fact, I think that the mindset shift is the most crucial step in your journey of becoming a high value woman. Surprisingly, most of women completely...
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    Power, "Pretty Privilege", and Bad Trades

    I initially wrote this as a post in another sub, but it might be better placed here. I wanted to take some time to talk about "pretty privilege", or the idea that you can use beauty as a vehicle to power. The idea that pretty women are granted certain forms of social power which create a...
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    How to make men pull their own domestic weight from day one.

    Part of the reason that women get stuck with the mental load of doing everything and then the actual physical part of doing everything is because we follow the societal expectation that we have to do everything automatically. How many women and get married or move in with a guy and...
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    Insecure Men Will Destroy Relationships

    Ladies! Why are men insecure? They may be insecure about their height, their appearance. Their career, their family relationships, their lack of friendships. Many men are insecure about how much money women make versus them. Many men are insecure about how hard women work compared to them. Many...
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    FwB is worse than being fuckzoned. It's being fuckzoned plus friendzoned.

    In fuckzone you only hookup and that's it. You both do the deed, get dressed and never speak to each other until the next hookup. It's not as abusive. Now add friendzone to this and you have a guy who actively denies you romantic connection. He could have left it at just f*cking, but no. He has...
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    The High Costs of Moving in with a LVM

    Ladies, I get it. The rent is too damn high! Because of this and our desires to meet cultural expectations and settle down with a man (that clock is always ticking!), many women make the poor choice of moving in with a boyfriend before he’s been thoroughly vetted. I know how attractive it is to...
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    Keep your professional reputation inviolate. Do NOT pursue workplace romances.

    This topic has been on my mind lately as I am leading on some exciting new projects at work, and it made me reflect on how far I've come from the Pickme I was half a decade ago. At my previous company, I had an office romance. The guy in question showed no interest in me when I first started...
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    BARE MINIMUM: The LEAST You Should Accept

    The Bar has been in Hell for so long that we often confuse bare minimum traits with high value. No, my Queens! These are the BARE MINIMUM treatment/traits you should accept to even consider a man. Let’s lay them on the table now and raise the Bare Minimum Bar up out of Hell! Bare Minimum...
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    Bare Minimum vs High Value

    I compiled a list of Bare Minimum traits/treatment here, , but while I’m working on a High Value list, I thought it might be useful to point out differences between Bare Minimum and High Value. Here are a some examples: Bare Minimum: Puts a teddy bear on you when you’re sick because he can’t be...
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    If You Have to Confirm Plans, Cancel Them Instead.

    I'm so pissed about the constant bullshit false equivalency- "women are just as bad, and so misogynist abuse is justified". please see the science. The only safe romantic relationship with a man is one where the power balance tips in your favor. It is not abusive to men for a woman to have the...
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    Using Social Media to Vet

    Morning ladies, happy weekend! As the winter days in the western hemisphere get darker, I expect many of us will be spending more time on our devices instead of outdoors, out and about. Many men use social media to roster date / evaluate women, and so I wanted to provide some social media themes...
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    Beware of fuckboys who pretend to be HVM - mistakes I've made and how I dodged a bullet!

    Recently I've had a curious experience dating a man who ended up being a jerk - but this experience was useful for giving me many lessons on how LVM have evolved and can now behave like HVM if all they want is sex. I'll describe here their tactics as the dates progress, how they pretend to be...
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    The reason why men marry some women and not others. Warning! ⚠️ Long post.

    I'm going to bullet point some of my favorite excerpts from the article. Some of these excerpts really enraged me but offered valuable insight. I'd love to hear all your thoughts about this. Most men who graduate from high school start thinking of marriage as a real possibility when they are 23...
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    Stop Oversharing and Be Secretive

    We have been so conditioned since we are little girls to be "honest" with our feelings and expectations - and we get so used to "heart-to-heart talk" between girls being the way of creating and enforcing bonds, and expect that that is also how it is with the man we are getting to know during...
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    How to vet for emotional availability using 'bids'

    Recently, a lot of discourse surrounding Attachment Theory (specifically Avoidant attachment styles) has passed FDS. Ruthless experienced Queens won't fall into the trap of an emotionally unavailable Avoidant partner. However, some of us will struggle to differentiate Avoidant behaviour from a...
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    Single's Inferno on Netflix - what we can learn from the hit Korean dating show

    Hi everyone, I've recently binged the Korean dating show 'Single's Inferno' on Netflix. The concept is simple: 5 guys and 4 girls are stranded on a desert island and can get to have dates at a luxury resort hotel if they choose each other at the end of each night through a vote. At the end of...
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    "When can I do 50/50 with a man?" - How about NEVER?

    Try looking deep down and wonder just why is it you keep imagining situations where you just "can't help" but do 50/50 - just swoop in and save the day - is it really about loving your man or is it about proving something? Perhaps proving to yourself, to the man, to the society that you are...
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    "I am afraid I will be conned by a psycho man that only reveal his true face after years of marriage"

    Here's the thing - MAJORITY of men are very, very bad liars. Why? Because women make it very easy for them. Ever wonder why when men want to con another men - they will present themselves as having authority and knowledge on stuff? Because that's how they see their target. And so, ever wonder...
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    STRATEGY: How to Emotionally Detach

    Many women have learned that, in today’s dating climate, unfavorable or even abusive relationships with men will deprive them of our most precious resources: time and health. Think of how many opportunities – including academic, professional, and financial ones – you have missed out on due to...
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    The Bite-Size Guide to Vet a Potential Suitor: Does he uses FILLER WORDS?

    When he compliments you or talks about you to other people, does he says things like: "Oh X is amazing, beautiful, hot, smart, intelligent, amazing, make tons of money, knows her stuff, independent, strong blah blah blah..." All filler words that he can pick and choose from thesaurus...
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